I think most of us remember chores as a dreaded thing we had to do as kids. I know I sure didn’t enjoy doing dishes at night or cleaning my room every day.
So when my husband and I started our family, I kinda dreaded getting our girls involved with chores. I definitely wanted them to have some, but I didn’t want the struggle that came with it.
Much to my surprise, from the time our firstborn could walk, she wanted to help with whatever I was doing.
And she loved putting away her toys, and whenever I gave her a task to do, she got so excited, thinking it was a game.
I wasn’t sure this would last and kinda held my breath a bit until I realized there was something to this. My daughter thought chores were fun because mommy was doing them and she looked up to me.
Which also made me realize that if I made chores out to be awful, she would hate them, too.

So from the time our girls were very little, we made chores out to be a big deal and as they grew and took on bigger chores, we made the transition a big deal, too.
Our girls couldn’t wait until they were old enough to do dishes or some of the other “big girl” chores that mommy got to do.
Now they are in their teens, they still do their chores without nagging. Our methods had to evolve as they grew older, but the results are still the same.
Here are some of the methods we use that help us get our kids to do their chores with minimal reminders.
1. Chores are expected
From the time our girls could crawl, we were teaching them to do chores. After playtime, we would hand them a toy and instructed them to put it away in the toy box.
Doing this repeatedly eventually instilled in them the connection that every playtime had a clean-up time. As they got older, they also realized the more toys they got out meant more toys to put away.
But they understood that chores were always part of the equation. Messes were fun to make, but after the fun, there was always a little bit of work.

Now that they are older, things have reversed a little. They now do chores BEFORE fun.
I don’t have a lot of rules when it comes to chores, but our girls know that if they do their set chores for the day, they are free to spend the rest of the day doing what they want.
For them, finished chores equal freedom. So they get them out of the way first thing and everyone’s happy. 🙂
2. Chores are done together
I had plenty of chores growing up, but I always preferred cleaning by myself. There were many days when I would do my sister’s chores, too, just so I didn’t have to deal with anyone else while I cleaned.
But when my girls were old enough to help with chores, I had to make a decision: deal with the frustration of doing chores with a slower human being or do all the chores by myself forever.
I chose to be responsible and teach my children to be responsible, too. It wasn’t easy, as any parent can testify, but the rewards FAR outweigh the negatives.

During the week, everyone does their own chores at convenient times, but Saturdays are our reset days and we all work together to get the house back in shape from the long week.
Getting in the trenches with our children makes them feel like they are a part of something, not slaves to the house.
They also see that what they do is important and worthy. If I never did my share around the house, I could never expect my children to, either.
If I see that my girls are having a particularly rough day of it, I will often pitch in to help or give them a break and finish their chores for them. This isn’t often, but when it happens, they feel so loved.
Which leads to my next point:
3. Chores are Important
It takes work for a house to run smoothly. We tried to instill in our girls from an early age the importance of helping around the house and doing their part.
There are so many moms out there who are running themselves into the ground trying to do it all when their kids are more than capable of helping.

We are only hurting our children when we do not teach them a solid work ethic. There is satisfaction to be had in a job well down. Not to mention, when we exclude our children from chores, we are depriving them of valuable life skills and setting them up for embarrassment later in life.
Also, an important thing to remember is to praise each child for their hard work, tailoring the praise to their specific skill set. Or if they are struggling in a certain chore, point out the effort they are putting in.
This builds confidence and lets them know you see their hard work and their contribution to the family. This also builds a sense of community that I feel is so important.
4. Chores are age-appropriate
Do you ever wonder at what age a child should start doing chores? We decided that if they were mobile; they were old enough to learn.
We tried to give them age-appropriate chores and worked on bigger tasks as they mastered each one. But keep in mind, some things might differ for each child.
When our youngest was born, our oldest was six, and she thrived on responsibility. She could do more as a six-year-old than kids twice her age. And we let her try whatever she felt capable of doing.
But our other two daughters are more laid back in that department, and so I didn’t stretch them as much as I did our oldest. And that’s totally fine. We try to give our girls what we feel they can handle and if they want to try harder chores before we think they’re ready for them, more power to them!

5. Chores are Chosen
Because we didn’t want our girls to hate chores, we wanted them to have a say in what chores they had.
We made a list of chores that needed doing each day and allowed the girls to decide which ones they would like to do. This works so well! If your child is doing a chore she doesn’t mind doing, chances are, you won’t need to follow up too often.
And don’t worry if they shuffle the chores around a bit after trying them out for a few days/weeks. Our girls did that a little and once they found their groove, it was smooth sailing.
After implementing this method, we found that our youngest does an impressive job on laundry where the other two weren’t as enthusiastic. Our middle child has practically taken over my kitchen, but she cleans so well, I don’t mind one bit. And our oldest loves to be outside helping daddy, so she mows more than the others.
With that said, we do want our girls to be well rounded, so everyone has to learn how to do everything at some point in time. And they have to do some things they’d rather not, like taking turns cleaning the big bathroom. But for the most part, they do the daily chores they enjoy doing and are good at.
6. Chores are Flexible
During the school year, I take over a lot of the chores. It’s our busiest part of the year, but I still want the girls to have some free time when they get home. So they mainly have some laundry to do and dishes after dinner.

On Saturday, it’s our normal reset day and they deep clean the bathrooms and we usually do food prep for the week.
But during the summer they take over all the M-F chores and I do most of the dinners. This works best for everyone’s schedule and keeps our home running efficiently.
Of course, your home will run differently as factors for each family are different. But you get the idea.
7. Chores are rewarded
When our girls were younger, we came across an app that kept track of our kid’s chores and with every completed task they would earn points that could be cashed in for rewards that we set up.
Our girls were so crazy about this system they were spending all their free time doing chores. It was awesome!
When that app discontinued, we made chore charts for their rooms and came up with rewards they could earn. (Get a FREE printable chore chart here!)
These rewards varied from playing a game with dad to earning spending cash at the store. The girls worked hard and even learned to save their points for more “expensive” rewards.
It’s easy to motivate children to do chores, you just need to try a few things out to see what works.
8. Chores are fun

In our house, we like to listen to music while we work. The happier the music, the better. There’s just something about singing while we work that keeps us going and before we know it, it stops feeling like work.
But there are countless ways to make chores fun. My girls enjoy competing with each other when they work. Or we work hard for something fun afterwards, like an ice cream treat or popcorn and a movie.
Chores ARE work. There’s really no way around that. But work can be fun if performed in the right mindset and with the right motivation.
Kids are easy to please, it doesn’t take much to make them happy or get them in party mode. It just takes some creativity and an example to set the mood. 😉
I hope this gives you some ideas that you can implement with your own family or encourages you to try something new with chores.
Just remember to be clear about you expect and try to find some ways to make it less tedious.
It’s much harder work in the beginning, but remember, the rewards are more than worth it!
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About the author
Kimberly McGraw is the founder of Life Worth the Living, a blog focused on helping mothers live their best life. Her desire is to help moms find purpose in who they are as a person, not just as a mom. Life Worth the Living has been featured in Making Sense of Cents, Outwit Trade and Believe and Create.
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